Something certainly is going on in a sort of reversal of the gender roles. It may also have to do with age, I am 31. Recently I have dated guys younger than I am. Which I thought would be good for the sex, because they are young and full of energy.
But I have encountered some very touchy, feely, want to talk but can't have sex guys. Like it hurts their feelings that I can think we can have sex and not be in a relationship. I have been told I was emasulating , this one guy. How that be? I wanted to feel how he was a man and I was a women. I thought that would confirm to him how much of a man he is.
( not sex wise but all life wise) The more women know what we want and ask for, demand better treatment, Men react . Some like it, some are afriad of it. It triggers something that is going on in men right now. A defensivness sometimes. In general some men are used to be the more assertive, the smarter, the leader in essense, and when they meet a women who is as assertive, smarter or as smart, and as able to lead us as he is, a whole bunch of reactions happen. Fear, ego puffing up behavior, anger, sadness underneath.
It's the same for me for a long while, if I met a guy who was very confident , I would feel my low self esteem even more around him.
I think women's strengths may provoke men to feel some of their weaknesses. And if you are usually about denying or not feeling weakness then it must be scary and surprising .
Please put this up on Ask a sexy man anything, see what they say.

The right men aren't afraid.

That said, if you're targeting a man who's not responsive to you, then you're targeting the wrong man. It is always possible to find a man to fuck. The problem is WHICH man. Selection is key.

"If you were courting me, however, the "Shut up and fuck me, I just want you for your cock you sissy," wouldn't really get me going."

Thats just it, I am not overly dominant, i don't stand there and dictate what i want, and when i am in a relationship, i still seduce, i don't walk around saying bedroom now, I want sex, i simply let a guy now what i want, during the course of events...... I tell him what i want and show him during the throws of passion and lust....whether it is a relationship or sex.....

My question was in relation to recent events when i said yes to someone who had asked me for sex, and i simply replied with a definite yes...(.see last comment in AASMA)....and the fact that it wasn't just happening to me, and none of us initiated it, the males did...... so hence the question what ever happened to the guy that jumped for joy if you said yes.....and why is it such a problem to just want simple sex no complications....

Oh and i never said all men were acting like girly girls, just the ones directly involved in the problem, and asked if it was becoming a problem amongst men.....

I took the original post as a frustrated rant. It does bug me when people seem to be saying that calling someone a woman or a girl or like a girl is an insult. I mean I'm cool with differences and in some ways I am more like a sterotypical idea of how men are.

I think Web hit it. It's about the man in question. and like Myriad I find that men are not only cool with me telling them what I want that they are excited about it and go on and on about how amazing it is and how glad they are that I will just tell them what I want instead of expecting them to read my mind or just know. But then I also realized this weekend that my "type" is guys who are not confident about dating and interacting with women...and I think maybe that is because they don't get the game and end up feeling like if they don't get or play the dating game that they are bad at talking to women. Which is sad to me because they are great men...but ok with me because then it means they are there waiting for me when I find them and so excited to find out they don't have to play any games to interact with or be involved with a woman.

maybe you can think of it as a good sorting tool. if they react as though you being strong or having opinions diminishes their manlyness...then they are not secure enough for you and you can just pass them by.