a friend of mine got me thinking about high school dances.
I went to nearly every high school dance (except the formals where you had to have a date) my best friend and I would go and dance the whole time together. The great thing about the late 80s was that the music was fairly undanceable...so even if you couldn't dance you looked pretty much like everyone else and it wasn't a dance in pairs kind of thing...we danced in circles of girls with the occasional boy. Except for the slow dances(picture hugging someone...and then slowing turning in circles sort of to the music) for those it was couples. The boy that I had a huge crush on for all of high school would come...but he wouldn't dance...except if I could get the DJ to play Beds are Burning by Midnight Oil then he would come and join our circle of dancing girls. I think he really liked having a group of girls that he could always go to. We weren't the cool girls...but we were the individuals and people often commented on how much fun we were having, asking us what we were on and not really believing us when we told them nothing until later when everyone knew me as really involved in all of the drug education stuff I did.
Man I really want to find that boy. He is one of the few people from school I really really want to know what happened to and know now.
So did you go to school dances? what were they like?
I went to nearly every high school dance (except the formals where you had to have a date) my best friend and I would go and dance the whole time together. The great thing about the late 80s was that the music was fairly undanceable...so even if you couldn't dance you looked pretty much like everyone else and it wasn't a dance in pairs kind of thing...we danced in circles of girls with the occasional boy. Except for the slow dances(picture hugging someone...and then slowing turning in circles sort of to the music) for those it was couples. The boy that I had a huge crush on for all of high school would come...but he wouldn't dance...except if I could get the DJ to play Beds are Burning by Midnight Oil then he would come and join our circle of dancing girls. I think he really liked having a group of girls that he could always go to. We weren't the cool girls...but we were the individuals and people often commented on how much fun we were having, asking us what we were on and not really believing us when we told them nothing until later when everyone knew me as really involved in all of the drug education stuff I did.
Man I really want to find that boy. He is one of the few people from school I really really want to know what happened to and know now.
So did you go to school dances? what were they like?
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 11:42 AMNo. It was the mid 70s; class of '76. No date, no dance, and lots of slow dance music.
At the time I wasn't interested, anyway. My long-distance bicycling hobby took up my time, probably to the great relief of my grandparents.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 12:15 PMI used to go, I really liked to dance, and as is still the case, I didn't mind too much if I looked cool or not. I had a friend, a guy I didn't want to date, but we had a great time dancing and would get all sweaty and undignified together.
We had a roller rink in town too, it was very similar to a high school dance. Most of the girls were there to see and be seen, of course, they had the secret knowledge of how to have a boyfriend that I always seemed to lack. Had something to do with lipgloss, we all had skintight jeans and big ol combs sticking out of the back pockets.
Fun to think about, thanks SV. Three words for you, girl: High School Reunion! -
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 12:48 PMI missed my 10 year and wow I guess if there was a 15 year one I missed it too. But I live close enough to go to the 20th when it comes around in a few years.
I would love to go to a 80s retro prom for adults
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 12:24 PMI went to a few.
My date for my senior year Valentine's Dance broke his leg earlier in the day and he insisted I go anyway. Apparently there was a rumor going around that I swung both ways. At that time in my life I was so straight, bordering on straight edge. I didn't drink or party at all, I was a model student and quite innocent and my parents barely allowed me out of the house anyway. Early in the evening this very large black girl I didn't know approached me and asked if she could 'dance against me'. In my naivete, I said yes, thinking she meant 'competitively' as I was in the theater department and was known to be a skilled dancer.
Later on she cornered me... now, I was a slight 98 lbs and I'm pretty short. This girl had to be pushing 300 and her breasts looked like B-53 missiles. I asked "What are you doing?" She said "I'm gonna dance against you. Don't worry nobody's looking, nobody cares." Shocked, I replied: "I'm looking and I care!" and ran off. I had never been hit on by a woman at that time and she was rather intimidating to say the least.
I found out that a fellow theater student had egged her on as a joke on me and after that, the group of lesbian girls would mad dog me every day at lunch. I really thought they were going to kick my ass.
The only other dance that sticks out is my senior prom. My friend and I nominated each other for prom court as a joke, after all we were the art school girls of doom. By some power that eludes me, I made it onto the prom court. None of the senior girls had a date (our graduating class had less than 100 kids and the boys our age were not so much) and I went with a few friends. It was so boring and pop-culture infested, I spent the entire time hanging out in the parking lot (still not drinking or parting yet) with my friend and missed the court procession. I didn't win anyway. I saw the prom queen at my 10 year reunion and she still thinks she's the prom queen.... sad, methinks. -
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 12:51 PMoh your post just reminded me of my friend who went to prom with a girl. Not her girlfriend of the time but a girl she liked I think(from another school) they both wore tuxes with purple converse and comber buns and bow ties! Totally cute and as far as I know no one gave them any problems. -
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 1:22 AMi went to my high school prom (in seoul) with my best friend. the girl checking off names at the door did a triple take when she saw us beaming at her together. :P we stuck around long enough to know it wasnt for us and left early to party our asses off where real koreans hung out. best. prom. date. ever. -
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 1:14 PMEspecially when you're young girlfriends are often the best dates!
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 12:57 PMI did go to school dances and even though I went to them in the 90s it was in South Dakota, so they were still playing music from the 80s.
When I went to the Homecoming dance as a Freshman I was the only girl on the dance floor
I was the only PERSON on the dance floor, and had been all night. Me in my mother's tiger-striped tie-dyed cocktail dress dancing like it was the end of the world.
Finally the DJ (who I imagine was sick of playing to an empty floor) announced "This song goes out to all the ladies on the dance floor," (me) and put on "Brick House." That song has held a special place in my heart ever since.
I continued to go to school dances even though I had less "school spirit" than damn near any other body in that school. I continued to dance. I was often the only person on the floor. Fortunately there wasn't a single person in that school who had an opinion that mattered to me so it didn't really bother me if I was making a spectacle of myself.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 1:51 PMI remember a few Junior High dances. They were after school in the afternoon. Girls would hang on one side of the gym, boys on the other. We were all to shy to get out there and shake our booties, but when a slow song finally came on, a few brave boys made the long walk across the floor and actually got to hug a girl while moving in slow circles. "No bear hugs" was a rule, so only one arm went around each others' waist. Clasped hands end up sandwiched between chests, just above breasts. I first felt tits with my right forearm. That was OK.
Francis DiFigliano was the tall italian model type with the waist-length jet black hair, full womanly boobs and the neckline to show them off, perfect outfits and makeup, heavenly perfume; she was clearly years more mature than the other girls... she got picked up after school by an older guy in a CONVERTIBLE! She said Yes to me, and it was dreamy.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 2:07 PMBut in High School I never went to a single school dance.
It was the late 60's in San Francisco and we went dance concerts featuring the Grateful Dead for free on Haight street or in GG Park. I saw Jimi Hendrix free in the Panhandle, Big Brother and the Holding Company featuring Janis Joplin at the beach, on the mountain, at the Fillmore... The Rolling Stones at the Cow Palace, Jefferson Airplane, Quicksilver, Steve Miller, etc etc. Everybody danced, mostly solo and stoned.
High School dance? you gotta be kidding! prom? wear a suit? no way! Graduation? Hell no, it's a good surf day!
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 3:42 PMI love that! I don't know why people won't dance! and that would be so boring as a dj I would think. -
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 1:24 AMive started quite a few people dancing by just stepping out on the floor by my self. life is too short.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 4:42 PMmmm, ask me how many boys thought it special when they crooned "sweet melissa" in my ear. I had a good time at dances. I rather disliked the formal proms and such, it was really not cool to dance with anyone but your date. how boring.
The other thing I did was go to different schools' dances all over. I had like six circles of friends who didn't know each other, and, um, a boy in each circle who thought they were the only one.
*hangs head in shame*
I mean sheesh, it was just a dance, right?
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 4:53 PMyou're allowed to dance with as many boys as you want. -
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 5:06 PMI went to my senior prom with one boy... and left with a different one. Very evil.
I went to my junior prom but snuck off to my BFs house and fucked for hours. My mom actually checked the hem of my dress to see how dirty it was to see if I'd actually done any dancing.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 6:29 PMLMAO, Darkly, that's fabulous!
I loved the dorkiness of the dances. I usually had my girlfriends to dance with and occasionally a tall boy would zero in on me as a tall girl to slow dance with. My junior and senior years, I had a boyfriend, so I always had a date for the dances. Karl wasn't good for much else, but he'd slow dance with me...lol
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Fri, May 9, 2008 - 3:58 PMHah! That's great!
I went to my senior prom with my husband...... my 25-year-old husband. They almost didn't let us in.
We stayed for about a half hour then looked at each-other and said: "Is it as miserable as you remember?" "Yeah. Is it as miserable as YOU remember?" "Yeah." Then we left and bucked like funnies for the rest of the night. -
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 1:08 AMi used to go to the dances. I mostly sat and watched til one time a good friend of mine pulled me up and wouldnt take no for an answer!!! after that i was up dancing!! in high school i was always dancing with my friends. The guys just seemed to "hang out".
btw, my 20 year reunion is coming up. I went to my 10 year but it was weird cuz all those strange feelings came back. There were the same annoying people being the same annoying people!! Some actually spoke to me, when they never really did when we were in HS. Others, who we hung out together didnt talk to me as much. Then one friend came in who ive known since kindergarten and was so extremely excited to see me!!! It made my night to actually have someone happy to see me. So i dunno if i want to go to the 20 year. Im still thinking about it. The price of it might discourage me even more cuz they want $75 per person. I just think that is way too much for where they are having it and who is catering it. -
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 10:45 AM$75?!? I don't care where they are having it, they should be having it somewhere that people can afford to go. -
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 5:44 PMSonoma High had THEIR Prom at the Exploratorium!!! that's the coolest thing I've ever heard for a Prom!!!
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 5:15 PMI used to go to most of the school dances, I loved dancing and I felt like if I didn't I might miss my one true love asking me to dance. (seriously I was a romantic)
And I went to both my junior and senior prom, my junior prom with a dork from drama class that drank too much Cold Duck and embarassed me in his powder blue tux, circa 1980. And my senior year I went with Matt Ralston my boyfriend that had graduated from another school. It was sweet, he took me out to dinner in his sisters trans am and sent me a dozen roses before hand and I had a wrist corsage and he wore a black tux. And we did it in my room after my parents were asleep after the prom. lol He was nice to me, I didn't know how to deal with that.
I loved going dancing at the teenage disco in Carson City from the time I was 15 years old.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 8:46 PMI went to many high school dances, and danced with lots of girls. In clique-speak, I was the-guy-that-everybody-knows; i.e., I didn't belong to any particular group, but was welcome in most of them. Guys knew I wasn't trying to steal their dates just by asking them to dance.
I was class of '82, so the music was late Disco & early New Wave. Pretty good tunes; many of the hit bands from then are now on my iPod.
The funniest thing I've noticed is that if you go into singles clubs today, you see the same crowds that you saw at high school dances--just aged a bit! The same hustlers, the same shy loners, the same boy-hunters, they're all there, hovering by the dance floor waiting for Mr/Miss Special! -
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Thu, May 8, 2008 - 9:19 AMI attended my high school reunion a few years back (class of 85) and remembered why I hated high school so much... for the most part people reverted to the old patterns they'd been in back in school, and there was the same feeling of being judged by appearance, and the inevitable "remember when..." that meant lots of situations I'd much rather never happened much less never remembered...
I am student teaching in high school now, and those same patterns remain, though cell phones and text messages have replaced notes tossed across the room. Just part of human nature I guess, for people to sort themselves into alliances and compete and mature at different rates and have different priorities. Though only in high school does it seem that people are thrown together with so little in common than age and the location of their parents homes. For so many of the kids, I look forward to when they are able to find their real peers through college or work, and come into their own. -
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Thu, May 8, 2008 - 10:35 AMYes, high school sucked, I was one of the ugly ducklings. I really enjoyed college, both times ('76-'81), (2000-2002-grad work), because there was less judgment by appearences. I went to my 20th class reunion and discovered I still had nothing in common with my graduating class. I haven't kept in touch with any of them. -
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Thu, May 8, 2008 - 1:57 PMThere are a few people from high school who I would love to know how they are and how they turned out. But mostly it just sounds so exhausting to try to get to know someone who thinks they know me already to some extent...when I'm just not sure there is much there that is the same. -
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Thu, May 8, 2008 - 4:17 PMFor the most part I am profoundly disinterested in my high school peers. I skipped my 20th reunion. Maybe I'll go to the next one, maybe not. The very few people from that period of my life that I am at all interested in being friends with I am still friends with. With very few exceptions, high school sucked.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 8:56 PMmy school didnt have dances as it was christian.....
and I never went to a college dance either.
I guess that's why I love to dance so much now.
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 5:02 AMMaybe he felt comfortable because Peter Garrett is such a shocking dancer! -
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Wed, May 21, 2008 - 3:02 PMWent to SO many dances. In Middle school (Junior High) we had a little dance every friday during lunch hour. Mainly people milling around talking and listening to the tunes.
Then in high school I went to probably half the dances. Typical homecoming, courtwarming, prom blah blah blah. 1st three years, I only went cuz my friends wouldn't leave me alone about it. I would end up having a decent time. We did the whole circle of friends dancing thing. But I was SO self conscience that I just didn't fully relax and enjoy myself. I started living on my own during my junior year, and really started to feel a little more comfortable in my own skin. My senior year... I think I went to homecoming and prom.... and I had a blast. I hung out with friends, and danced, and just had a good time. Left early usually after about 2 hours or so, and went to after parties. Just took me awhile to feel halfway comfortable.... or at least to convince myself that I didn't care.
Now... omg, I love dancing, love love love it. Can't stop me, and I don't care if other people like it. I'm there to enjoy myself and enjoy the company of my friends... period. -
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Wed, May 21, 2008 - 3:04 PMoh, and I hated slow dancing with boys when I was in school. Just found spinning in slow circles in 1 spot, barely inching our feet along while hugging to be SO boring.
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Thu, May 22, 2008 - 12:27 AMI think one of my messages to the world is goin to be it doesn't matter if you are good at dancing just throw yourself in and enjoy!
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Thu, May 22, 2008 - 11:10 PMno only went to one dance, Prom went with one girl and was dating another. I should have been dating the girl I was with but that was not in the cards. Do not know were any of them are today I wonder. Hummm think I will make a phone call .....the prom date was a great gal the girl friend I could care less about now. -
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Fri, May 23, 2008 - 11:42 AMI didn't get to go to my senior prom, and a guy I met right around then was so bummed because he wanted to take me but was already going with someone else. She ended up only hanging out with him through getting pictures and then ditching him and I didn't get to go. Oh well, sometimes things don't work out right. He's a friend to this day so I'm thinking that is more important.
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Fri, May 23, 2008 - 5:46 PMI invited the one as a great friend and the time between began dating another girl that had done the same. I would not go back on a date just because. It was a good night, every one had fun no one was left out or ignored.
I should have perused the great friend however her idea of her future was not in line with mine. This sent us different ways and we lost communication over time and relationships. -
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Fri, May 23, 2008 - 7:49 PMthat makes sense. Sometimes it's easier to see in retrospect who was the really significant person.
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Mon, June 2, 2008 - 7:54 PMUGH! i went to an all girls catholic school. we had combined dances with Serra high school and occasionally the SI and riordan boys would show up. but mostly because i have always been a homely looking girl, i danced with my friends. there was one time that a guy named Kai asked me to dance. i never saw him again. i think he did it on a dare.