Dating sites :)
And other places......
I get no love on the interweb. Aside from that Poly stalker that is very sweet, but not so good long run............

Honey-girl, "they" say we're supposed to marry ugly, if we want it to stick . . . ;o)

I think women are less superficial than men, generally, but I'm glad that the men that adore me aren't, clearly, *completely* superficial! The right kind of woman values substance over flash, in my opinion. Truth is, I take 3+ minutes in the bathroom getting ready in the morning (yes, sweet ones, I know it shows), and I'd feel kinda weird if my lover took much longer. Then again, I don't really use the mirror much, except to see what's glaringly wrong and fix it, so, again, maybe I'm weird. No worries. At least I know that *beautiful*, amazing, substantial men, like S. Archer, The Dark Knight, Artemis, Ron, ?Jin?, T.E.L., etc., would adore me as I am. That's what matters. :o) Hugs and Blessings!

eahhhh....no. that's a total stereotype. i'm a woman, and i'm highly visual. it also has very little to do with what kind of guys i'm with and whether they're "hot" or not. i'm on the homely side of average, and i've been with hot and not-so-hot guys.

i don't know if one can generalize about whether guys or girls are more likely to use looks as a qualifier on a relationship...but i do know that the not-so-hot ones have treated me a whole heck of a lot better than the hot ones.

"men who are capable of seeing them as a person, regardless of what he may look like,"

someone who sees me for who i am? thats just hot, pure an simple.

I have to admit, I think I have a stereotype/block against guys who are too gorgeous in the traditional sense. If I get to know them then it's void of course (except for the parts that do happen to fit). But maybe most women don't have that block?

I had a guy in my mediation training that was simply too pretty to be true. He worked at a clothing store and looked like he would be on one of those giant posters they have in there of the model guys. and he was straight. (I have begun to look around to see if possibly this next generation is alot more "meterosexual" or whatever you want to call it where the boys openly care about their hair and clothes and seem to feel the pressure to be pretty) and I just have this reaction to that like I imagine people have to the gorgeous blond she she trips their stereotype. (the dumb blond stereotype is one I don't have at all interestingly enough) But getting to know him and he of course is not just a pretty boy with nothing underneath, he's working on his bachelors, he's in the training so he can volunteer for the mediation center, he's working toward going into law enforcement...he's a real person. But I find that I have to push through this block I have to get there. I do make myself but it's still there and I am not sure why. Though in all honesty I do think it has something to do with not feeling comfortable finding someone very pretty when I don't think they will find me so. There is more though I'm sure that is at the core.

A clip of the same song sung by a "good looking" guy ;-)

www.youtube.com/watch