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There was a moment back when my Sweetie and I were friends first flirting with the concept of being more when I looked at him and knew that I would keep him, that we would be together.
Do you tend to have those moments of realization or slow building of relationships? Have you ever been hit by lightening relationship wise or are you a smolderer?
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Re: The other moment of no return
Wed, September 9, 2009 - 4:32 PMI am a lightening bolt person.
I wish I was different.
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Re: The other moment of no return
Thu, September 10, 2009 - 7:29 PMI've experienced both - lightening bolts frequently get me into trouble though. -
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Re: The other moment of no return
Sat, September 12, 2009 - 12:36 AMI've been mostly very lucky with my lightening bolts. -
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Re: The other moment of no return
Tue, September 15, 2009 - 11:47 PMYou know, I have never really given that much thought, but now that you ask, yes.
I pretty much know in an instant or have a lightning bolt moment when I know....
It is not necessarily when I meet that person for the first time, but it is when I actually "see them" (person/personality) for the first time.
It has been this way with the 2 past loves of my life.
The first I knew as a child, we went to school together, our families knew each other, then I moved away and returned some years later...
the moment we saw each other (again) we knew immediately....courting was only a formality...
With my second love, I knew who he was, but paid very little attention to him, we never spoke,
we were both extreemly busy people who just kept passing each other.
Then one day, we happened to be in the same place at the same time and had a conversation....then it hit me....
I felt like we should be kissing....??? completely caught me off guard! That was mutual also....lol!!!
both times I knew that we would be together, as if I was looking into a crystal ball I could see us so clearly
and in each relationship it was everything and more that I had anticipated it to be....
sigh, good memories.... -
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Re: The other moment of no return
Sat, September 19, 2009 - 7:32 PMexactly! not the first time we met...but then suddenly I knew.
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Re: The other moment of no return
Thu, September 24, 2009 - 8:34 PMYou know, with me it's kind of funny. The lightning bolts usually come in the presence of instant attraction; but these are the relationships that either burn out quickly (fall in love in a day and last a week) or only last a few months.
The slow buildup of mutual attraction to liking and thence to love, those are the keepers.
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Re: The other moment of no return
Tue, September 29, 2009 - 9:06 PMis there a moment when you realize that mutual attraction has grown into something more? -
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Re: The other moment of no return
Tue, September 29, 2009 - 10:08 PMWell, we certainly were head over heals after talking to each other in our 1st conversation and never left each others side after that.
But as time passed, things definitely deepened....or sank in....
It was a gloomy winter Saturday...we were decorating my Christmas tree at my apartment....
He was untanglling lights as I was stringing them up. I had my back to him..
a song came on by Billy Joel (not sure of the title, but he sings....) "i love you just the way you are.."
My boyfriend stopped, came and wrapped his arms around me from behind and just held me and swayed till the song ended.
When I looked at him, he had tears in his eyes.
He told me that I was the best thing that ever happened to him and that our love made all the difference in his life.
Our connection was way beyond love and friendship. It is something I will always cherish. -
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Re: The other moment of no return
Tue, September 29, 2009 - 11:00 PMthat sounds like a beautiful moment.
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Re: The other moment of no return
Wed, September 30, 2009 - 12:33 AMYes; I was a virgin taking a pleasant walk one summer with a friend when I suddenly realized we would become lovers. There was nothing else special about the moment. I wasn't looking into her eyes or talking about anything in particular when the realization hit me. It was weeks before we made love but it went smoothly and well.
I think these realizations occur in part because our minds do only a fraction of their work in their conscious realms and the rest of the processing subconsciously. At fortunate moments answers arrived at in the subconscious float up into the conscious realm or come to us in our dreams. This is often called intuition and it is a blessing. I don't think we have a lot of control over the process but in our thoughts and actions we should develop the pathways between these areas of the brain as much as possible. -
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Re: The other moment of no return
Wed, September 30, 2009 - 10:10 AMI alway "just know" when it is right person and then for me there is no going back. I am one of those people that once I decide it is incredibly hard to shift gears that is why it is hard for me to let go easily after a break up. All this happens within me though I rarely subject the breakee to my process because it is MINE.
My heart either takes a long time to connect or a split second but once I do I just know.
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Re: The other moment of no return
Thu, October 1, 2009 - 9:22 PMoh yes I totally agree! so much of what our brain is doing is unconscious and then filters up to where we can see it. I remember realizing I was in love the first time...I was kind of pissed actually. Just suddenly I knew out of nowhere...but of course deeper I must have been thinking about it for quite awhile. -
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Re: The other moment of no return
Fri, October 2, 2009 - 9:44 AMI look forward to being surprised by this again.
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Re: The other moment of no return
Wed, September 30, 2009 - 1:09 AMI've been both. Usually I tend to be attracted or not to someone pretty fast... only a couple of times have the lightening bolts really turned to real love.
In one relationship, we were friends for 4 years before we became lovers. I was living w/ a boyfriend when we first met, & my friend was only 19 to my 23. Flash forward a few years ahead:, I was done w/ the previous boyfriend & my friend had gone to live in NYC for awhile & then returned to Ft. Lauderdale. In that time, he'd definitely grown up, even looked more manly. A attraction was in the air...,We started hanging out a lot , finally got sexual, & then, yup, fell in love.
