Here's a question most of you ladies are quite familiar with, have often struggled with, but I'd just like to know: if a date has been right, would you feel like making love on the first date, or would you feel different about it?
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Nigeria
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Re: First-Date Love Making
Wed, July 2, 2008 - 8:26 PMi dont know what you mean by "if a date has been right" and im not sure what you mean by "feel different about it"
if i felt like making out on the first date, id do it. ive never really struggled with that. -
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Fri, July 4, 2008 - 3:04 PMI was referring to when you feel everything's going well and fine ... the guy isn't trying to jump on you ... both of you're having cool and interesting conversation, that sort of thing.
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Wed, July 2, 2008 - 9:18 PMI have developed a rule for myself: no sex on the first meeting. Now if it is someone I knew, and we were going on a date, then that is different. But someone I am just getting to know, I have discovered it can wait...for the next date, which could be the next day! I am clear with this rule, so I think it makes the guys relax knowing they don't have to "perform" on the first date. For me, it allows me not to act on this sexual hunger I feel, but really allows me to think if I want to go there with the person, if only for a day. It means I am not getting laid, however, I have not met many worth a second date.
Now, there are always exceptions to almost every rule in this world. -
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Wed, July 2, 2008 - 9:54 PMAhem.......
See my topic: Uuuuuggh!
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Wed, July 2, 2008 - 11:29 PMI have the exact same rule! Yet, I've had guys tell me they think I don't like them if I don't sleep with them on the first date. I wonder if this is a recent thing. -
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Thu, July 3, 2008 - 7:00 AMIf there is a guy that thinks that, then the whole conquest thing is sort of too loaded. Just like with a woman if a guy doesn't reach a certain level with them at the first meeting the woman doesn't think they like them. Folks, crazy as it sounds sometimes people have the thoughtfulness to take their time and not just jump into to an intimate relationship with someone.
Oh and... it has been pretty rare to me that it is considered "making love" on the first date. It is usually either sex or fucking to me. lol
So much pressure on people to either get together or not get together. I think checking in with yourself about why it is so fucking urgent to get to the sex would be in order.
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Re: First-Date Love Making
Wed, July 2, 2008 - 10:19 PMright, like opening doors and springing for dinner?
I am pretty clear about whether something is going to happen or not, so if I decide that we are going to have sex then it's on. But I do like to get to know someone a little bit before.
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Thu, July 3, 2008 - 1:18 PMEh, I despise dating because of this sort of crap. I sleep with a person when I want to sleep with them. I don't if I don't. I generally don't "date," but prefer to get to know people in a social context and then decide if I'm going to sleep with them. These days if I sleep with you when we first meet you can fairly well guarantee it isn't going to be a repeat performance. Anybody I'm thinking about keeping around I get to know better first. -
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Fri, July 4, 2008 - 3:41 AM<Eh, I despise dating because of this sort of crap. I sleep with a person when I want to sleep with them. I don't if I don't. I generally don't "date," but prefer to get to know people in a social context and then decide if I'm going to sleep with them. These days if I sleep with you when we first meet you can fairly well guarantee it isn't going to be a repeat performance. Anybody I'm thinking about keeping around I get to know better first.>
I went out with a woman who carried around a "Rules for Dating" magazine that I did not subscribe to. Still don't . -
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Fri, July 4, 2008 - 3:55 AMI've read some of those. They make me almost disgusted enough with my gender to want a sex change... but I like having breasts.
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Fri, July 4, 2008 - 7:53 PMI think the only rules a person should follow are those that make them feel good about themselves. Hey, we all have "rules" about so many things, and I don't think dating is all that different. To follow a "Rule for Dating" from a book or magazine: Yuck! isn't that what organized religion is for?
And Myriad I have to agree with you about the statement if you do sleep with them when you meet them, a repeat performance is pretty much not going to happen.
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Re: First-Date Love Making
Fri, July 4, 2008 - 11:53 AMI don't make rules about sex other than it has to be safe, sane and consensual. It's not often that it happens on the first date but there have been exceptions. -
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Sat, July 5, 2008 - 1:12 AMI slept with my husband the first night we met. Granted, a few years of riendship intervened between that sloppy drunken three-way and the next time we hooked up . . . but the second time led to a relationship that's still going strong after 22 years. So, sloppy drunk first-date sex isn't ALWAYS a deal-breaker . . . apparently . . .
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