Poly <~~> Mono

single LOL

monogamous. but i wouldn't say no to an extra wife; us computer geeks know that redundancy is good.

i don't like labels, i like cool irresistable people, and i take it situation by situation.

i'd even be open to one incredible person being the only lover in my life... but they'd have to be pretty damned remarkable ;^)

suddenly single (death of spouse)
involuntarily celibate for 10+ years (long story)
which is why I am here... I am no longer sure about anything

Mono.. sort of. I'm only with my Master and only allowed to be (and I'm fine with that. I don't think I could handle two at the moment @_@) But I've done things with Master's wife under his direction. I consider myself mono and I don't think of her ad my gf or Mistress or anything.

I'm not mono.....if that answers your question. lol

I'm definitely poly. I like variety. I also like having a main squeeze at home.
So I guess I'd say my preference is an open relationship - one main partner and a few FWB.

I tried married monagamy for 20 years. It was good, but frustrating too.

I am a serial monagamist. But am currently dipping my foot in the dating pool. I don't think I would ever adopt the poly thing, I know for me it doesn't five with my emotional needs. But I have seen it work really well for others.

Historically a serial monogamist. Finding that, after all this time, I may be more poly, or simply non-mono, than I had thought. I have a few lovers, but when I think of poly, I usually think of somebody who is in a serious relationship with one, but who can play with others. Mine is more non-commital, but also when I'm with somebody, I'm very much with them. It's weird, since friends with bene's doesn't describe it, and it's definitely not casual sex.

Most definitely poly, though I lived a monogamous lifestyle for nearly 18 years. These days my way of dealing with monos is this: I accept you for who you are. I hope you cansay the same. Don't try to 'fix' me, because I don't need fixing.

Could I live a monogamous lifestyle again? Sure. Do I want to? Nope.

I am mono, as in single guy, as opposed to stereo, but I am hoping for that other earpiece so the sound of life moves from one side of the room to the other. I'd also like the latest technology in viewing pleasure, you know like maybe a gazillion dots per square inch. A little screen will do, something about my size. I've got some ideas about what I'd like to see, but as they said in The Virgin Suicides, women got us figured out a long time ago. Just give me some chips and a nice comfy sofa and it's like, "Game's On!"

Oh, and it must be nice being in a position, where you can debate which methodology for achieving pleasure is better. Frankly, if you want to know the truth, my kind of (hopeful) intimacy is something I like to share with one significant other. I am much too uncomplicated to address two, and god-forbid more female creatures at one time. As Jeffrey Eugenides said, I'll never understand the depth they exude; one woman is more than any man should ask for.

I'm currently in a triad relationship with one man and one woman. None of us sleeps with anyone else, but the dynamics of the relationship are shifting, and that status will almost certainly change sometime in the next year or so. For the first time in the twelve years that I've been exclusive with my husband, I'm opening up to the idea of intimacy with other men. We discussed his proclivities before we got married, and he is definitely interested in safe exploration with other women. With our girlfriend living with us and his current job stress, it hasn't been an issue...he's gotten all he needs at home.

I should probably mention that I've had cerebral sex with lots and lots of men through online role playing and the occasional cybersex session. Some people would consider that sex, even though there was no physical or face to face contact. It's all done within the parameters of our relationship agreement.

The truth is, we're currently in a state of flux, and definitions (mono/poly, bi/straight, Dom/sub) are difficult to pin in place. I can safely take the middle of the road in most issues, if I want to even make a pretense of accuracy. But where's the middle of the road between mono and poly? I'm bi, switch...moly?

poly

I'm sure a lot of you think I'm the poly poster child but if we invent a Monogamy scale that works like the Kinsey scale (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale) then I'm probably really only a 4. Although the Klein Grid (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Klei...tion_Grid) might be a better model. But I'll stick with the Kinsey model because I don't have to draw a diagram to discuss it.

I always call myself polyamorous regardless of what sort of relationships I'm in. I'm poly when I'm single. I'm poly when I only have one partner. It's like being bisexual: I don't become heterosexual just because I don't have a girlfriend at the moment. I'm not poly as a political statement or even as a "lifestyle." I'm poly because I fall in love with people and it's often not in a serial fashion. I'm poly because I was raised to be and I flat don't have most of the jealousy issues that I see people struggle with. I'm poly because I'm not OK with pretending I don't love somebody just because I already happen to love somebody else. I'm poly because I would be very sad to only have one gender in my life as a romantic partner. I would very much like to have some stable life-mates eventually but accept that most relationships are temporary things that have their time and then must be let go of. On the other hand I'm not inclined to have sex with a bunch of random people just for the fun of it. I'm a very sexual person and I do enjoy to play sometimes but I'm also a strongly emotional and intensely loyal person. Some poly really is no holds barred tumbling any interesting person you meet and never forming strong relationships with your partners. I put in overtime to form relationships that are as deep as my partner will let me go with ALL of my mates and partners and lovers. Some of the folks I love would never make good mates (life partners) so they stay partners. Some of the folks I love can't integrate into my life so they stay lovers. Some folks are passing joys that are wondrous people but for whatever reason an involved relationship between us would never work and I call them Chew Toys. Some are friends that sometimes like to share my bed. I usually just call those folks friends. I'm as loyal in my way to my Chew Toys as many folks are to their husbands and wives. They are all important. None of them are discardable. None of them are things to be used for my benefit. I give all of them as much of myself as they ask for. And I DO commit to work on my relationships. I will sweat, bleed, and cry for a relationship before I give up on it unless we have a mutual parting of ways.

"But I'm always true to you, Darling, in my fashion.... Yes I'm always true to you, Darling, in my way..."

I'm mono. Just wired that way.

I favor polygamy, it's got advantages that have yet to be explored. It's got a bad rep by some unscrupulous people.

But I practice monogamy. Just never met the right people. Most I've had contact with were interested first in finanances and then in me as a person. That's not how I roll.

Mono... not to be confused with "a mano" lol

Just one intimate relationship at a time for me. Even if a poly was open and on the table, it would just get too weird for me. But, I have no experience in that. I've never even juggled girlfriends. I do realize poly is not about juggling relationships but having an open and honest intimacy with more than one partner, with all parties aware of it. Just a bit more complicated for me, than the benefits I would anticipate. Why not just stay "single" and make the rounds? On the other hand, I don't really believe in a one-and-only forever who can meet every need, not only sexual. I give my partner the freedom to enjoy anyone's personality, even the risque parts of it. As long as she's not bedding them, it's acceptable for me.