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Biblical versus Mythological

Artemis & Ella — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 07:33:05 GMT

When I was in school, I was taught all about Roman, Greek, and Norse Gods in Mythology classes. These were lessons on the religions of those people and what they believed in. Religions that are still around today. Why is it ok to teach children those histories, but it is not ok to teach children the histories of Jewish and early Christian peoples

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Light a candle: Rememberance

Oneinmotion — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 01:50:58 GMT

Just taking a moment to remember my deceased sag hubby whose b-day just passed. A best friend for 5 great years...

this is my candle. thanks for the memories! <3

If you have anyone you've lost and would like to take a moment to remember, light your candle (share a story, too if you like)....

Life is richer and fuller for loving, being loved and having been loved.... hugs to all!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QPiK_yGG8ag

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fqnpeG--bkU

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MySpace or Facebook?

dsoul — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 15:51:20 GMT

Which of these two social networking sites would you prefer as your favourite site for networking and getting in touch with friends and families?

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The effects of oral sex on the vocal cords

PapaRed — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 02:53:49 GMT

Has anyone ever noticed if giving oral sex (that is, fellatio) has a beneficial effect on a woman's singing voice? I ask because my wife is getting ready to sing Handel's Messiah with her choral group, and I want to be ready to help her performance in any way I can, no matter what I must do.

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Mr Wonderful!

Pineapple2 — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 03:46:59 GMT

I just discovered the talking "Mr Wonderful Doll" What a crack up!

What things do you find most charming in a man? You know... make you think of him as just oh, so adorable! (I don't mean sexy) Even something like.... a "baby-face"

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The age old question

strngvoice — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 06:20:03 GMT

what do you do with the extra arm while spooning or sleeping with someone?

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something beautiful

Oneinmotion — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 05:34:34 GMT

I came across this 'visual poem' about el dia de los muertos and wanted to share...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yq3ygHZIyls

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Female Masturbation Interviews

Pineapple2 — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 09:23:37 GMT

I came across a great video a couple of weeks ago... author Betty Dodson's "Orgasmic Women - 13 Self-loving Divas"

I thougt it was a great video for men and women, about real-life practices and attitudes about female masturbation. It's presented by women themselves. Not really a porn video, though it includes "demonstrations".. more a documentary of sorts with personal interviews. 13 women give their real-life take on what part masturbation plays in their lives Have you seen it?

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Conjugal love

JSin — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 16:58:50 GMT

Interesting article

Thoughts on Conjugal Love

Eric Schwitzgebel

Department of Philosophy

University of California at Riverside

Riverside CA 92521

June 4, 2003

Two friends recently asked me to contribute something to their wedding ceremony. Since I’m a philosophy professor, I thought I would take the occasion to reflect a bit on the nature of conjugal love, the distinctive kind of love between a husband and wife.

The common view that love is a feeling is, I think, quite misguided. Feelings come and go, while love is steady. Feelings are “passions” in the classic sense of ‘passion’ which shares a root with ‘passive’. They strike us largely unbidden. Love, in contrast, is something actively built. The passions suffered by teenagers and writers of romantic lyrics, felt so painfully, and often so temporarily, are not love – though in some cases they may be a prelude to it.

Rather than a feeling, love is a way of structuring one’s values, goals, and reactions. One characteristic of it is a deep commitment to the good of the other for his or her own sake. (This characterization of love owes quite a bit to Harry Frankfurt.) We all care about the good of other people we meet and know, for their own sake and not just for utilitarian ends, to some extent. Only if the regard is deep, though, only if we so highly value the other’s well-being that we are willing to thoroughly restructure and revise our own goals to accommodate it, and only if this restructuring is so well-rooted that it instantly and automatically informs our reactions to the person and to news that could affect him or her, do we possess real love.

Conjugal love involves all this, certainly. But it is also more than this. In conjugal love, one commits oneself to seeing one’s life always with the other in view. One commits to pursuing one’s major projects, even when alone, always in a kind of implicit conjunction with the other. One’s life becomes a co-authored work.

The love one feels for a young child may in some ways be purer and more unconditional than conjugal love. One expects nothing back from a young child. One needn’t share ideals to enjoy parental love. The child will grow away into his or her own separate life, independent of the parents’ preferences.

Conjugal love, because it involves the collaborative construction of a joint life, can’t be unconditional in that way. If the partners don’t share values and a vision, they can’t steer a mutual course. If one partner develops a separate vision or does not openly and in good faith work with the other toward their joint goals, conjugal love is impossible and is, at best, replaced with some more general type of loving concern.

Nonetheless, to dwell on the conditionality of conjugal love, and to develop a set of contingency plans should it fail, is already to depart from the project of jointly fabricating a life and to begin to develop a set of individual goals and values opposing those of the partner. Conjugal love requires an implacable, automatic commitment to responding to all major life events through the mutual lens of marriage. One cannot embody such a commitment if one harbors persistent thoughts about the contingency of the relationship and serious back-up plans.

There may be an appearance of paradox in the idea that conjugal love requires a lifelong commitment without contingency plans, yet at the same time is conditional in a way parental love is not. But there is no paradox. If one believes that something is permanent, one can make lifelong promises and commitments contingent upon it, because one believes the contingency will never come to pass. This then, is the significance of the marriage ceremony: It is the expression of a mutual unshakeable commitment to build a joint life together, where each partner’s commitment is possible, despite the contingency of conjugal love, because each partner trusts the other’s commitment to be unshakeable.

A deep faith and trust must therefore underlie true conjugal love. That trust is the most sacred and inviolable thing in a marriage, because it is the very foundation of its possibility. Deception and faithlessness destroy conjugal love because, and exactly to the extent that, they undermine the grounds of that trust. For the same reason, honest and open interchange about long-standing goals and attitudes stands at the heart of marriage.

Passion alone can’t ground conjugal trust. Neither can shared entertainments and the pleasure of each other’s company. Both partners must have matured enough that their core values are stable. They must be unselfish enough to lay everything on the table for compromise, apart from those permanent, shared core values. And they must be shorn of the tendency to form secret, individual goals. Only to the degree they approach these ideals are they worthy of the trust that makes conjugal love possible.

http://www.faculty.ucr.edu/~eschwitz/SchwitzAbs/ConjugalLove.htm

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Sexiest Season?

rorybowman — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 14:15:26 GMT

With leaves turning and winds blowing here in the temperate northern hemisphere I thought I would ask a question. What is the sexiest season for you, and why?

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Are you an exhibitionist or a voyeur?

Chucker — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 06:47:07 GMT

Ladies, do you enjoy being watched and find it arousing or do you enjoy watching others for purposes of arousal? If either of these is a turn on for you explain why and tell us men of an example where you have done this.

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Returning a Legal Favor

rorybowman — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 04:04:59 GMT

My occupational degrees are in education and criminal justice, which means that there are often background checks if and when I apply for a new job. About ten years ago I broke up with a woman who apparently developed some psychological problems and decided that I was a Bad Man (tm). Twice she has sought a restraining order against me and while the first was denied in 1999, a second judge in 2006 granted one and told me it could later be rescinded. When I went down to the courthouse about this, though, I find this is not the case. At some point I am probably going to have to spend between $1-3K to find her and get an official court record that I never threatened her, struck her, damaged her property, committed any crime and whatnot. This should be relatively straightforward, but he question I have for you sexy women is this:

As long as I have to pay to bring her into court and clear my name, how appropriate is it to spend a little extra money to return a legal favor and embarrass her as well?

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aschleigh's deleted thread

Fifi — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 18:52:44 GMT

SV, I'm just wondering if you deleted the thread or Aschleigh did almost immediately after I posted a response to her many posts? I ask because I put quite a bit of time and effort - and care - into responding to her questions and accusations, and explaining why I find it problematic for her to be comparing another woman a dog in a thread that was initially ostensibly about gender equality. (None of that offended me, it just highlighted how childish Aschleigh is when asked to consider her own behavior and her own conflicted issues regarding other women and being a woman herself). SV, I suspect you didn't delete the thread because I'm pretty sure you'd have the integrity to say something before you did. Aschleigh, if you did all it does is highlight yet again that you're all about constructing and projecting a false image of yourself on tribe and avoiding honest discussion about professional ethics and integrity even if you have to destroy evidence and silence others to do so.

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do you enjoy watching men masturbate?

Chucker — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 13:37:17 GMT

If you do what is the best place to do this? Would you prefer to watch someone you know or a complete stranger? Would you do this online?

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Leading with the boner.

QueenEofPie — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 15:39:44 GMT

I have wondered this for years and would like some male opinions. Why is it that some men think that introducing you to their junk first is going to make you want to be with them?
I got a friend request from someone who will be henceforth called BONERMAN. I have not interacted with this person ever before and there he "pops" up with his profile picture of his erect penis in a pair of sweat pants.

Why? And does this work on most women and I am just either a prude or weird? I like some verbal foreplay before being introduced to mister happy, so I don't get it. I have a few thoughts regarding this you can agree or disagree with them.

1. left over from being 12 and wanting to do something naughty for shock value.
2. is this a phenomena like when guys yell out the window of their cars "hey hot stuff, sit on my face!"?
3. A way to solicit anonymous sex or a way to say this is what I am here for?
4. Men that do this really think that their junk is as much of a turn on to them in an anonymous photo as a disembodied photo of a womans parts is to them?

Needless to say I friended him and am going to work that pole later today. ha ha ha Not. So what is it? This part of the mans psyche has always baffled me, after only putting one Craiglist ad in I received maybe a dozen random dick pictures in various stages of arousal or non arousal. Does size matter more to men than it does to women?

Thanks for your thoughtful enlightening responses in advance. I am totally curious about women that like this sort of approach too. :)

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how to look good naked

leslie — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 22:09:13 GMT

i'm a fan of project runway, but don't have cable, so i was watching it on www.mylifetime.com, and saw that they also have full episodes of carson kressley's "how to look good naked" -- he's the blonde funny flamboyant guy from "queer eye for the straight guy" but this show is for women.

he works with one woman each episode about her body image issues... which affect a woman's whole life, often meaning she doesn't swim at the pool with her kids, or doesn't have sex with her husband any more.

he starts with having her strip down to her bra and panties and look in the mirror, which usually results in tears and shame. then, over the period of a few days, he does confidence-building things, like putting a photo of her in her underwear up on a billboard, and having passers-by share what they think about her body, which is almost always positive. or having her compare herself to other women's bodies, only to find that she completely distorts how she looks and misjudges her own body.

there is a little bit of external make-over, like getting fitted for the right bra, and doing some shopping and a new haircut and makeup, but the real work is internal, helping each woman to understand that she is beautiful just the way she is, and that her body is great.

by the end of the show, the women do a nude photo shoot. it's amazing stuff.

have any of you seen it? if not, go check it out. i think it's one of the most powerful mind-shifting get-your-life-back shows i've seen in a long time. the first episode of season two was my favorite, like night and day, starting with a tired woman who'd lost her mojo and confidence, and ending with a bright shining woman who had a whole new view of her life, and her marriage.

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To Love Selfishly

strngvoice — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 21:58:21 GMT

I have long thought that our valuing of selfless was a bad thing. Possibly a good concept twisted into bad things. When I hear the word it sounds very literal to me Self-Less, without self. I don't want anything that someone gives to me that comes from a lack of them having or caring for their own "self"

I happened to just find the index cards for a speech I did in college about why I would prefer a selfish love to a self*less* one and this quote from those cards explains it so well. I thought I'd type it out for you guys and see what you think.

~~~
To love selfishly does not mean to be indifferent to the needs or interests of my partner. When we love, our concept of self interest embraces the well being of our partner. This is the great compliment of love; to declare to another human being that his or her happiness is of selfish interest to our selves. Do we wish to believe that for our partner the relationship is an act of self denial and self sacrifice...(possibly part of the quote missing)
and let us ask ourselves whether we want our partner to spend time with us alone together to experience the doing as an act of self sacrifice or do we want our partner to experience such time as glory and if it is glory that we want our partner to feel, if we want our partner to experience joy in our presence then let us stop talking of "selfless love" as a noble idea."

Nathaniel Branden
Honoring The Self
~~~

I will say that I've experienced love with someone who was self centered and that did not work for me. Everything revolved around them including their need to be self sacrificing and lose themselves. It felt very different from "I love myself and you and we are both important"

So what has worked for you? How has your view of what is love in relation to how you value yourself in relationships changed or evolved?

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The other moment of no return

strngvoice — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 20:48:11 GMT

There was a moment back when my Sweetie and I were friends first flirting with the concept of being more when I looked at him and knew that I would keep him, that we would be together.

Do you tend to have those moments of realization or slow building of relationships? Have you ever been hit by lightening relationship wise or are you a smolderer?

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Have you ever fantasized about a family member (brother, father, sister, mother)?

Chucker — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 11:34:02 GMT

Without getting moral about it if you haven't have you ever had a sexual fantasy about a family member? If so have you acted on it?

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stupidest song lyrics

strngvoice — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 19:27:33 GMT

I nominate this Lady Gaga lyric for stupidest lyric of all time

"Cause I'm bluffin' with my muffin
I'm not lying I'm just stunnin' with my love-glue-gunning"

What stupid lyrics have you heard lately or always thought were awful?

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cuddling and sex

cooldawn — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 20:02:39 GMT

Do they go together for you? Which one comes first?

For me it varies... I think it's actually easier for me to have sex with a new person than to allow myself to be vulnerable enough to cuddle. I think I'm much more likely to cuddle with friends because for me there is definitely a level of trust I have to feel to really enjoy it. Snuggles after sex are nice too, but again I don't want to do that with everybody... am I just weird or is anybody else like that too?

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under or over

strngvoice — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 18:11:06 GMT

it occurred to me this morning that I think people often underestimate me. I'm not sure why...and being a scorpio part of me enjoys it quite a bit and part of me is offended LOL. Mostly I'm only offended now when it's someone close to me and I totally enjoy it when other people do it.

It got me wondering. Do you feel like people over estimate you? or underestimate you? how do you deal with that?

and even more so it got me wondering do you think you tend to under estimate people? or over estimate them?

I think I'm pretty good at not estimating people to solidly and letting there be room for them to show me who and how they are. But if I had to choose I think I tend to over estimate people rather than underestimate them. It can be disappointing...but I kind of like that about me, that I'm open to people being great.

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The moment of no return

strngvoice — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 19:34:10 GMT

I can tell you the exact moment when I knew that my marriage to my ex was done, I can tell you the exact sentence he spoke that broke my respect and affection for him. There was another relationship where there were many small moments of knowing a chunk had just been lost forever until there was finally not enough left to consider a relationship.

I wondered how it was for other people. When the big relationships in your life have ended has it been a slow gradual death? a sudden realization that it's been dead for awhile, a particular event or realization that left you totally done? Is there a pattern or does it seem to be different for different relationships?

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previous affairs

david — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 04:56:50 GMT

if a guy had an affair during a previous relationship or marriage, do yu automatically assume he'll do it again?

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Men sucking men

davorra — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 00:21:10 GMT

So how do you sexy women feel about men sucking men? Is this something you would like to watch? And what are your thoughts about a man when you find out he has sucked a cock?

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Pillow talk...

Mark — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 01:33:37 GMT

In addition to cuddling, foreplay, and as many orgasms there can be I find that mutual nakedness can lead to very intimate conversation. The more comfortable my lover makes me feel the more I am able reveal about myself and my feelings. I try to be open in a positive fashion. Part of this is my natural loquaciousness but do women find this sexy or distracting?

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Love?

knewkevlar — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 01:56:58 GMT

I think it's time to take mine out of storage. The question? Are the smartly funny, spontaneously active, compassionately conscientious, romantically ravishing, demure nymphos all taken? Just checking.

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manscaping / mens grooming

david — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 23:17:10 GMT

Can't help it, my fathers Italian. I have hair on my back and butt. I can, however, do something about it.
I don't need to be perfect, just don't want to be nasty when naked. So I groom it because I'm not so fond of being hairy. I chose a grooming tool with a comb on it so I can leave a few mm of hair and have it look a bit more natural. Wife think's its wacko that I shave it, I think its conscientious!

What do you think?

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Why Do Lesbians Hate Men?

dsoul — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 14:52:06 GMT

Sad to hear that most lesbians hate men. Maybe I am not aware of this because I really don't have a lesbian girlfriend. All my girlfriends are either straight or bi and we enjoy playing with each other.

Why do most lesbians hate men? Do gays also hate women?

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Tribe ads

tangerine23 — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 02:05:46 GMT

Why do I keep getting an Amazon ad for Glenn Beck's books?
I also get ones for meeting hot black women... um, I already met one, me!
Who else is getting ads that do not match your preferences?

Are we going to help them target what we do like by posting this? Hmmmmm...

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Learning new things about old friends

cooldawn — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 15:26:53 GMT

I always think it's interesting how relationships evolve over time - especially with those "I think you're really cool but don't know you well" peripheral friendships or the "we've known each other since grade school" but didn't talk about anything heavy back then... and then at some point you have an in depth conversation with one of these people and find yourself somewhat wowwed and/or impressed.

I'm not talking about the guy who had a crush on you since the 8th grade, but lacked the courage to tell you until you were 30. I'm talking about the person you know in one context... then suddenly one day... you realize there are more parts to them that you really identify with. I've just gotta say... I think I've got some of the coolest friends ever ;)

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Ok ladies how true is this?

JSin — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 21:24:26 GMT

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SVGbsMDlPlg&feature=related

Cute video, just curious with you ladies if it seems accurate to you... I have my own theories and results but wanna hear what this mob has to say.

JSin

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the new bad boy?

david — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 21:21:47 GMT

From the 1950's there was the James Dean look that included anyone who wore a white tee and black leather jacket. There was a 50 year stretch where the "bad boy" look embodied danger and risky behavior that made the guy desirable to most women in some way. There were books and such about the topic to the point women would seek professional help if they were over attracted to such an element.

Then there came Johnny Depp, the modern bad boy, and a host of others.

Then there was nerds. Nerds? How could the nerds have taken over the spotlight filled by uncertainty, adventure, and the promise of adrenaline?

Whats next?
What's the face of the new "bad boy" image look like to you?
Or is that over where securiy is the new adrenaline?

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Obesity is a spiritual issue....

aschleigh — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 17:55:26 GMT

Now that I am addressing my food issues head on I am seeing how important they are to my spiritual growth. I also see how many people are suffering from obesity. It's not just the length of life but the day to day quality of life that I'm noticing. I feel really energetic and clearer when I'm eating more balanced. It's like a drug addiction. The "bad" foods that make people fat': simple carbohydrates: pasta, rice, breads, they get turned into sugar the same way alcohol does. But in a "bad" way that the fruits and vegetables don't get broken down. ( this is the Zone plan or Barry Sears philosphy, and it's working for me) So it works on the same addictiveness that alcoholics are working on. Plus it masks feelings of unworth or pain basically. And dealing with pain in constructive ways is a spiritual issue if ever there was one.
Also food like alcohol taken in larger than needed qualities seem to work like a depressant. It's a terrible cycle of eating and depression about the eating and eating more. And look around, how many people do you see doing that in your life?
What are your thoughts about weight, food, energy, health? Do you see it as a spiritual issue in your life? I think there was book called Fat is a feminist issue. I didn't read it. It must address some of these issues, particularly how women are kept away from our power by body image and fat issues.

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Lady's Lists

Sprout — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 05:56:07 GMT

Ok, so my last thread got me to thinking.....

As a woman, do you keep a "list"?
Can you list the names of all your past "lovers"?
Do the numbers even matter to you?

I happen to keep a list of names. Just so I can keep track. And feel bad/good about my numbers.

Does your list make you feel good or "bad"?

Has society messed us up to the point that "certain" numbers are "too much"?

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signs of the times

tangerine23 — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 23:39:48 GMT

Hello sexy ladies and gents!

I was wondering how things have changed for all of you now that we are in some seriously changing times. Have you found inventive ways of dealing with challenges? Have things stayed the same for you? Have you learned anything from the current events that has changed something in you?

It seems as if me and everyone I know has felt the effects of the economic recession and that national levels of tension and stress have increased but that it's happened so gradually, people seem to think its normal.

For one thing, I've dropped some of my food and bath product snobbery. When I started going back to school, I took a big financial hot and that was a big emotional adjustment. I actually teared up one day at the grocery store when I realized I was seriously considering potato flakes because they were cheap! That's tough for a foodie! Today I bought generic soap so I know I'm really running on financial fumes!

What can you NOT do without, seemingly despite challenges (if you're having them).

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I may be in the Twilight Zone

Sprout — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 02:29:45 GMT

Ok, this probably isn't that weird, given the number of J-named guys in the US......
BUT!! The last 8 guys that I've dated or hung out with had first names starting with J (including the last five guys I've slept with).
And a vast majority of my "list" are J-names as well (3x as many J's as ANY other letter).
I also remembered that the first "big" crush I had (when I was 6, no less) was a Justin.
The more I thought about it, the weirder it seemed.
I clearly need to break my J rut :)

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birth control

tangerine23 — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 21:00:01 GMT

Hey Ladies (and gents),
I was hoping you all could help me out a bit. I have tried a few different forms of birth control: ortho-tricyclene, nuvaring, the patch. Each has had side effects I don't want to live with. I need some form of hormone balance as I get ridiculous PMS and cramps without any.

What are your experiences with different types and what were the benefits/ drawbacks? Do you have experience with natural means?

I realize everyone's case is unique but I thought I'd hear from you as well.

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Guys who think they're slick

Jen — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 23:54:12 GMT

What are some red flags, from your experience, that a guy is just trying to get into your pants? What is the level of cheesefactor that they have stooped to?

Basically, I'm just looking for some red flags, cause my instincts are going off. I met a guy, much older than me, he's a dj at various nightclubs, and he just seems like he's got the "always saying the right thing" syndrome. I got massively drunk and hence, massively made out with him. I think I am a sucker! Either way, I want to know what you think. It may help me make a decision on wether to just go with this (his mad game???!!) or break it off. Because everything this guy says is wayy too perfect.

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Sure is Quiet Around Here...

ForeRunner — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:39:34 GMT

...so just how do you initiate small talk to get the party bubbling?

The weather is always the biggest topic of conversation where I live. Is that a universal thing even in climates that don't change as wildly as it does here?

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Do you do inner work/therapy , how goes it?

aschleigh — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 22:06:29 GMT

I'm obvisously a big advocate of inner work and therapy.

I find that a lot of what pops up for me in relationships, in work, in life is related to my self-esteem/ self-worth/ self-care/ self-love issues. I also see this in most of the women around me, friends , co-workers , clients, family. ( A whole other thread could be about society working against women's health)
I have a wonderful therapists who is right there with me exploring these issues. I also do ( have to with school ) lots of inner work . ( it didn't come naturally) I find it takes intention and time and patience and lots of love .

Do you do inner work/ therapy ( however you understand that ) Yoga therapy, some kind of sacred service , etc?
How goes it? What have you found core issue wise, or core strength wise? Do you do it weekly, daily, with people, alone, high energy, loud , low-key /quiet?

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Waiting...........

Sprout — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 03:22:43 GMT

For "The One" kinda sucks.
To paraphrase: "I've been dating since I was 13......Where IS HE?"

I actually have someone who I know would be great (it sounds really goofy, but I "saw" myself holding OUR kid), and we have fun together and good sex but he says "We'd drive each other crazy". I don't think this is true. He's crazy all on his own, but I am patient enough to deal with his crazy. And I kinda love him...and I have for 11 years..........

Have you ever just "known"?

And, aside from patience, what can I do?
Is it ever possible for one person's love to outlast another's trepidation? I have a feeling he's picked the wrong girls for quite a while because he's scared to be real.
I'd like to say I'm just being silly.........but no other infatuation has lasted like this. And I've seen us as old people.......but I don't want to wait.

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Anonymous Sex?

Rig_Daddy — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 17:36:57 GMT

Time to break to boredom.

I know lots and lots of men who enjoy anonymous sex with men and I'm one of those guys for sure.

"dirty book stores", "cruising rest stops", "back rooms" in the bars, "women's room" at the gay disco, "Glory holes", "Bath houses".

What about the girls?

I know of a now defunct party for women only where each woman would choose "top" or "bottom". The bottoms would undressed (or mostly) and hop into slings. The folk running the party would draw a curtain across the slings so someone standing at the working end of the sling could only see the bottom from the waist down. Then the tops would come in and the party would start.

I've also known some swingers groups to set up gang bangs for the girls where the girls didn't know who was playing with them.

So how about it women, do you like anonymous sex?

Hugs,

Rig Daddy

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Oy Vey!

Sprout — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 03:51:45 GMT

I am just needing a place to say "I TOLD YOU SO!!!!!"

A good friend of mine dated a guy who was also a sort of friend of mine. He broke her heart.
She literally called me the night they got back together. All I said to her that night was "Please, don't sleep with him." She laughed at me and slept with him. They got back together. She got knocked up and married.
Now they are having the same fight they've had for months, namely he resorts to the semantics of the fight. He likes to monologue, she needs to ask questions. He also believes he's always RIGHT. And now (after about 1.5 years of marriage), he's doing to her what he did to his first wife (NEVER being around, not helping with the kids, just not talking to her).
I want to give her some good advise. Really, I want someone to kick his butt into gear.
But every fiber of my being is saying this guy is just an ass. But I don't want her to be a single mom.
So I don't know what to do......any words of advice?

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awesome first ladies

tangerine23 — Tue, 05 May 2009 04:09:02 GMT

Much ado is made of Michelle Obama and I think she's pretty kick-ass too. I also have to hand it to Carla Bruni-Sarkozy for being not only intelligent but for having a fascinating life for a first lady. Another first lady I always admired was Eleanor Roosevelt.

What first ladies or just kick-ass ladies do you admire or are you fascinated by?

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smiles

strngvoice — Tue, 19 May 2009 04:15:55 GMT

I ran across this cool quiz thing. They show you small video's of people smiling and you say if you believe it is a genuine smile or not and then it tells you how you did.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/humanbody/mind/surveys/smiles/index.shtml

How did you do? How well do you think you do at determining when someone is being genuine or not?

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Prop 8 is overturned!!!!!!!

tangerine23 — Fri, 15 May 2009 18:48:50 GMT

I'm so thrilled!
http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-gaymarriage16-2008may16,0,6182317.story?page=1

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Bang bang... so many shootings (Xposted)

tangerine23 — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 03:20:19 GMT

It seems like people are flipping their shit. Are we just hearing about it more or has it actually increased?
Why do you think this is? People freaking out over Obama? Fear of gun control? The recession? Glen Beck?

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the "Chase/Hoops"

Pineapple2 — Wed, 13 May 2009 09:08:11 GMT

crosspost from AASMA

Do you take the idea of the "Chase" as romantic?

Oh, in this case, that would be the guy doing the chasing? Or... do women feel they should not "chase"

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Simple Sex Question

Pineapple2 — Sun, 17 May 2009 11:05:18 GMT

What do you like about sex?

BESIDES the physical sensations and orgasm!

I like the closeness. To know someone sexually is so very private: You never un-know that even if your relationship ends. I remember every woman I've had sex with, and in a way that I remember no other people. That's one of the things I like about it.

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Asian Women Myth?

Pineapple2 — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 23:33:04 GMT

Let me open by saying if you are Asian or of Asian decent I am not dissing you, but.....

More than few times I have heard women speak of an ex that left because she "wasn't Asian (enough). or that he had to have a Asian woman. I have also had more than a couple of pals send for a "Cherry Blossom" (Asian ladies looking for American men to couple with) or move to the Philippines to get one

I am willing to bet if I asked for a show of hands how many women this has happened to, it would be more than you expect. What is with that? Me, I need a chick with some ASS. lol

But seriously, why do you think men would believe an Asian woman is going to be a better mate? Subservience? I think of the phrase "wolf in sheep's clothing" and wonder how many guys think they found a "little lamb" that soon came to a rude awakening.

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Condoms?

Pineapple2 — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 04:35:12 GMT

After reading the recent post in AASMA from a fellow describing how arousal often fizzles putting on a condom, or the lack of sensitivity when using one, I had to wonder what sexy women think or know about their man and the use of condoms. One respondent mentioned lots of women hate the things too. I haven't had the need for a condom in decades, neither as birth control nor prophylactic. But then, I haven't had sex with many women, either. As fate would have it, all of them except my first experience, have been sterile. Is it a necessary evil one just deals with as a precaution against STDs? Do you ditch them for another method of birth control once you are in monogamous relationship? Any other thoughts. I am very interested.

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"True Love"?

Pineapple2 — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 02:44:45 GMT

I was thinking about the Semantics: "love" vs "in love" thread and it led me to this question... Just open-ended.

What do you think "true love" is? Is "true love" like your perfect soulmate that fills a role none other can, or is it just love that is totally real and honest? Or....? Any and all responses are valid, so let 'em fly. I just want to know what sexy women think about it.

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The "how are you" question

daisychild — Mon, 04 May 2009 18:44:07 GMT

I always like to answer this with honest and interesting answers, find adjectives that actually describe my feeling. This is easy when I'm in a great mood, which is usually, but really difficult for me when I'm struggling. I mean, even then, I usually say that things are challenging, intense, or interesting, rather than "bad" or "not good"

But today I'm struggling and not really able to hold myself together for that objective answer. So I give a polite smile and say "okay"....

How do you answer the question when you're not feeling so hot?

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Jaded?

Pineapple2 — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 17:49:13 GMT

Do you consider yourself romantically/sexually jaded? How so?

I sure am.

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wanted for

strngvoice — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 01:37:08 GMT

The other thread got me thinking about what stuff I am ok with being desired for and what stuff I'm not ok with being desired for.

So I wondered is there anything that you especially enjoy being desired for? Maybe a part of your personality? maybe a part of your body? maybe a talent?

and what things do you feel uncomfortable being wanted for? Maybe your hair color, or your race ect. Maybe some parts of your personality?

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Semantics: "love" vs. "in love"

TheMelissa — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 06:50:24 GMT

“Inconceivable!” the Sicilian sputters in so many incongruous situations that Inigo tilts his head and says “That word… I do not think it means what you think it means.”

I was recently told that although he knew I loved him, he didn’t think I am “in love” with him. And I don’t know what that means, or what he meant by that. When I was younger, we’d say “I’m so in love with that dress” or “I love cheesecake so much I want to marry it”, and part of me wonders if “in love” implies ownership, possessiveness. Or if by the nature of the language nuance one is an active verb, the other is a state of being without any action. If one requires reciprocation and the other doesn’t. If one is real and true while the other is based on fantasy and fitting the other in a box that may or may not be an accurate portrayal of who they are and looks suspiciously like a white horse and silver armor. I’m not sure, but it seems like the definitions of the terms are rather subjective.

In any event, the longer I try to sort out the difference in my own feelings, the more confused I become as to what the difference might be between loving someone and being in love with them. What say you?

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We've got so many Taurus women in here...

cooldawn — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 17:50:13 GMT

so just out of curiosity, how much of this holds true for the other Taureans in here besides myself? And those of you that know us, what do you think?

** All about Taurus

All those rumors about Taureans being stubborn? They're true. But lest you begin to think that stubbornness is a bad trait, consider the way people talk about those who don't stick to what they believe in: wishy-washy, scattered, distracted. Isn't stubborn better? Of course, there are other words that suit the average Taurus quite well and have a nicer ring to them: focused, grounded and stable, to name just a few. In other words, if there's an important task to be accomplished, you'll want a Bull for the job.

But there's a lot more to that Taurean nature than the ability to make a decision and keep to it -- innate sensuality, for example. These folks are the touchmeisters of the zodiac; so if it smells, tastes, looks, sounds or feels good, they're there. Just step into the home of the nearest Taurus for ample proof. You may not find the Mona Lisa on the living room wall or a bottle of Dom in the fridge, but you'll come across something that looks just as elegant and tastes just as good -- and you're in luck, too, because the Bull is more than happy to share, as long as the company is of equal quality.

When it comes to relationships, in fact, the one thing a Taurus absolutely insists on is that they have something to share. They're very big on getting a return on their investments, no matter what they've invested or how -- and that goes for time, energy and resources. If you're involved with a Taurus on a one-on-one basis, it's not just unbelievably pleasurable -- it's also a tremendous compliment! With Venus as its ruler, this sign settles for nothing less than the best of everything; if a Taurus isn't sure their partner answers that description on many levels, they wouldn't waste their time. So if you're a Bull yourself, those thoughts might go through your mind every time you and your sweetie get into an argument that leaves you trying to decide whether or not to walk out and stay gone. You know that you wouldn't be with them for this long if they weren't the best -- just be true to yourself, and your decisions are sure to be as solid as you are.

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Strange thing I saw while traveling in SLC, Utah

kenders5 — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 05:42:45 GMT

So, I passed a funeral home today whose sign was a little odd. Under the name of the funeral home there was a second sign that read "We also cater and deliver" . This made me picture a very strange consultation.

Funeral Director to Grieving family member: Now would you like your 'dearly departed' cremated or slow roasted and thinly sliced?"

I couldn't help but laugh at how morbid and odd a combo of things to put on a sign. What are your thoughts on this?

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Hair Chests and Armpits

dsoul — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 21:24:48 GMT

Some ladies prefer their men having hairy chest and armpits, while some others see it as a turn off and prefer a guy just having abs and no hairs.

Which would you prefer?

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Top Sex Fantasies

gypsy_scholar — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 21:35:43 GMT

Fantasy has long been a rich part of mankind’s sex life; but it wasn’t until recently that Sexologists began undertaking “scientific” research into what part, and to what extent, fantasy plays a part in our sexuality.

Researchers such as like Alfred Kinsey, Masters and Johnson, Shere Hite and Nancy Friday have all made groundbreaking discoveries - but there have also been other findings - such as, women’s fantasies are more likely to involve their partners, whereas men’s often have to do with Jenna Jameson’s car breaking down at the side of the road.

Investigators at lavalife.com recently presented the following list (described as some semi-scientific research into what the top fantasies of both sexes are, whether and how they differ, and what if anything, all this means):

Top Male Sex Fantasies

It’s safe to say, since guys spend most of their time trying to figure out how to get sex, and then avoiding the phone afterwards, that a lot of their fantasies are about power. In other words, some of their favourite reveries reflect the desire to skip the perennial smile-and-wink, followed by dinner-and-a-movie, and get straight to the action.

10. Domination / Submission. Bondage and sex slave fantasies are popular scenarios. However, since most guys are too lazy to learn how to tie a proper knot, there’s little need to worry about coming home to find ropes tied to the bedposts.

9. Harem. This is the one where he’s the only male in a room full of willing women. And no, we’re not talking about The View.

8. Younger woman / older woman. This one’s fairly obvious. For some reason guys seem predisposed to feeling an attraction for women out of their age range, whether younger (for breeding) or older (for learning). Blame it on evolution.

7. Orgy. This is one of those fantasies that are probably better left un-acted-upon. Sure, it seems like a good idea at the time but the planning, the etiquette and the ensuing awkwardness cancel out the initial thrill. Errr, not that we’d know for sure.

6. Watching your girlfriend / spouse with another man. Again, probably best un-acted upon. Just rent ‘Indecent Proposal’ instead.

5. Forbidden fruit. Having sex with the boss’s wife while on the phone with the boss; his girlfriend’s sister coming over and catching him in a pair of your high heels - if it’s wrong and morally base, he’s probably imagined it at some point.

4. Sex with a stranger. This one always livens up the commute to work.

3. Role-playing / Costumes. As clichéd as it sounds, guys do want you to dress up as a Nurse / French maid / Princess Leia and not just at Halloween.

2. Sex on location. Probably the office would make a lot of guys’ number one place, outside of home, to have sex; the aisles of Office Depot, though, would probably be a distant 9th or 10th.

1. Threesome. If you guessed this as the number one male fantasy, give yourself (and your girlfriend) a pat on the back (preferably in front of your boyfriend).

Top Female Sex Fantasies

Women’s sex fantasies differ from men’s in that their scenarios are more likely to transgress societal conventions. Since women’s behaviour is viewed more judgmentally, their fantasies are more likely to involve doing what they’re not supposed to - i.e., “being bad.” At least, that’s what our research (Girls Gone Wild in Cancun) indicates.

10. Voyeurism. Yes, she wants to watch as much as you do. Almost.

9. Exhibitionism. This is a big one, particularly in today’s over-sexed climate. But women have been exhibiting themselves since as early as 1950, maybe even earlier.

8. Domination / Forced sex. As politically incorrect as it is to say, research puts this hot potato fantasy pretty high up on the list. According to Masters and Johnson, the “forced-sex scenario” is second only to taking a different partner than her current beau; according to Nancy Friday (My Secret Garden), it’s second to none. We have to stress, though, this is fantasy we’re talking about, people.

7. Sex in a public place. Here’s some overlap with the guys’; however, we wouldn’t be surprised if women showed a little more imagination when it came to sex out in the world. Such as, at a pro-sports game, with all the action caught on the JumboTron.

6. Two or more guys. Maybe it’s because porn seems to have taken over a large portion of society, but we’re guessing that this fantasy rates more highly in current studies than it did when Masters and Johnson first began conducting their investigations.

5. Older woman / younger man. Call this the “Mrs. Robinson” (after The Graduate) scenario. The fantasy of seducing a much younger man - her son’s friend, perhaps? - is probably one of the oldest in the book.

4. Having a man as a sex slave. More than the sexual favours, what really turns women on about this one is the housekeeping possibilities.

3. Sapphic romp. Wishful thinking on men’s part or as real as Mardi Gras…? Since most women admit to having sexual feelings at one time or another for another woman, and since the success of Katy Perry’s “I Kissed a Girl,” we’re guessing the latter.

2. High-priced call girl. What woman hasn’t considered, at least fleetingly, the possibilities of somehow making cash money in a way frowned upon by society? The illicitness, not to mention illegality, of prostitution makes for some sizzling fantasy fodder.

1. Being carried off by a sexy stranger. One need only look at the sheer volume of romance novels sold to know this one never goes out of style.

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Love? That is the question.

knewkevlar — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 19:58:06 GMT

Love Is a burning thing. Love goes to a buiding on fire. Love hurts. Love Stinks. The Look of Love. All you need is love. What's love got to do with it?

Love.
What does it take? My blood, my sweat, my bank account? Do I have to kill for it? Die for it? What if I choose to live for it? Will it ever return my calls, emails, pretentious banshee shouts of longing from the highest peak of the amorous Everest? Or will it find me on it's own? Waiting...waiting...waiting with open arms, okay open but armed. Armed against the inevitable attraction of distraction. You know, the one that injects herself into your soulpsyche like loveheroin. Your every waking thought. When she's not there, you think. When she's there you think more, when that look of love turns to that look of loathe, you think more and more and more. So, I wonder. I wait. I seek. I retreat. I long. I loathe. I live. I love.

Love will keep us together. I'm in the mood for love. Loves in need of love today. Lovefool. What's love got to do with it?

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so my fellow women...

cooldawn — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 07:05:04 GMT

what are things that attract you "at first sight" and what are things that keep you attracted to someone over the course of time?

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Dealing with stress

Ron — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 16:44:18 GMT

Dear seksi, amorous and extremely well read ladies,

Times are hard. I've been truly struggling for the past year, and as the economy plummets, I'll probably struggle more as the year progresses. Been trying very hard to keep my stress from affecting my relationship, but on many levels it can't be helped. Stress + relationships is not helpful and I was wondering how you ladies deal with the tough times.

What do you do to ease stress, or if it can't be avoided (like in my case), what do you do to deal with it?

Hate when something as precious to me as my relationship gets trashed due to stress...

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Hi Y'all!

Sat, 21 Feb 2009 01:15:40 GMT

My name is Renee and I am new to this tribe...Just wanted to introduce myself...I'm not sure what else to say so, if you look at my profile and come up with something, just ask! =)

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How was your week?

Ron — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 22:02:03 GMT

Noend meetings would always start with a round table discussion about everyones week. You learn a lot about people when you hear about their week.

I've been under a severe financial crunch, dealing with banks and lawyers. I hate dealing with lawyers, makes me feel like I need to wash after doing so. Money stress makes me crazy. It's hard to move and shake when you feel crazy. I have enough stress trying to run the biz and money troubles make it even tougher. Keep wanting to chuck it all and take a job somewhere. Go sit in a cube somewhere and fix computers in the back room of a corporation somewhere.

Then I shake off that non-sense and try to get back to hustling biz. No time for introspection, gotta keep trying. Working every connection I got.

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Vibrators?

aschleigh — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 01:53:29 GMT

I'm sure it's been asked , but what's your favorite?

I saw one on a web site that looks like a C. As big are your hand if you were making a C in sign language. One end of the C is metal and the rest of it is rubbery plastic. I can't find it anymore?
Does anyone have a " C" vibrator , where did you get it?

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WTF!

kenders5 — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 09:20:14 GMT

So, I am still in shock and wondering WTF. 2 years ago I met a woman in our community. Our kids are the same age and went to the same school. Over the course of 6 months we got to know each other and started hanging out as friends she knows I am in a poly relationship. She was having a rough time in her new marriage (she was 31 he was 65 and there is no sex ever, twice in two years) I would lend an ear while she vented her frustrations. Eventually she decided to get a divorce. I didn't hear from her for a couple of weeks then she turns up to tell me about her new boyfriend and wants us to get together so we can all meet him.

Long story short, our families get together and when we meet him several major red flags go off for all of us. (aka he creeps the kids out, won't let her be more than 4 feet from him, tells her what she should think, holds on to her arm continually and not in a cuddly way.) I try to talk to her the about it when he is not around but he never lets her be alone. When we do get a couple of minutes out of earshot you know how that goes. She likes him and he has told her he loves her, he has his own business, oh, and he is so good in bed. They are getting married in two weeks.

A month after the wedding we hear from her again, they want to go out to a club. So we decide to give him another chance for her sake. All is ok while dancing, then we go out for coffee. She is a little drunk, she tells us over coffee that she kissed another woman on the dance floor while her husband watched. We are like, ok. (no big deal to us). Then she confesses to her husband that she is very curious about being with another woman and puts me on the spot by asking a lot of very personal questions about me and my lifestyle.

Normally, this is not something I would mind, but her husband is obviously fuming at her revelation to him. I am not comfortable giving him any information about me or my life at all. He then tells her "they" don't need to explore that area and basically calls us sick freaks for not living a "Mormon standard life" like it is our fault she sprung this on him.

Ok, so that's enough for us. I call her the next day and let her know we like her, but we just do not feel comfortable around him. She tells me how he has told her she doesn't have appropriate friends and they are moving to another city in 3 days. He is buying them a big house. (apparently, his business is doing so well *sarcasm* he can close it down and move to another city in a moments notice). Her kids get yanked out of school and they are gone. I get text messages once in a while. I ask if she is alright. After four months they have moved several times, her kids are still not enrolled in school. The house he was buying got downsized to be a 2 bedroom mobile home for her, him and her 3 teenagers. She doesn't know anyone in town and he won't let her meet anyone. I try to encourage her to get out of the situation.

The next contact I get from her is an email saying she has to give up her cell phone and they are no longer going to have a computer. She will contact us when she can. I am worried for her, but what can I do. I don't have an address or anyway to help her. So it's another bad life situation for her and i just hold out hope she comes to her senses and gets help.

Fast forward a year. My daughter calls me from school on her lunch. Guess who she is talking to while She re-enrolls her kids in school. My daughter hands her cell phone to this woman and we say hi. I again ask how she is doing and if she is still with __. She says they are divorced but will fill me in later. I don't hear from her again. My daughter talks to her daughter who says they are divorced, but he still always hangs around their house. But since she doesn't contact me, life goes on as usual for us until.....

I am out of town and have been for 3 days, when I get a disturbing call from my husband. He says he got home from working a twelve hour shift and after making sure the kids were all situated and ok, fell asleep early. So He woke up around 11pm and was on the computer when someone is pounding at our door after midnight. He opens it to find "the Ex-husband" looking for Her. The ex, then relates a story about how She told him that she went to an orgy with us the night before. My husband let's the Ex know he hasn't seen her since the night we all went out, I and my S.O. have been out of town for 3 days and that he, my husband, has worked twelve hour shifts for the last three days as well. "Oh", the ex says, "she must have lied to me."

WTF! Ok, I did feel sorry for this person. She made some bad life choices and put herself in a very bad place. But, WTF! What makes her think it is ok to tell some deranged lie about me and my family to this unstable person! I don't care if she lies to him about her having done something he disapproves of so she can push his buttons, that is not my concern. But when she includes us in it, it pisses me off. I have no more sympathy for her. I have kids. They don't need to be terrified by some maniac appearing at our door in the middle of the night because of her issues and lies. I feel, She crossed the line when she disregarded my family's safety for whatever high drama she has going on. I was never anything but a friend to her who listened to her troubles. We never invited her into any type of physical relationship with any of us at any time. I have not contacted her and wouldn't know how to reach her even if I wanted to. I can't imagine what she was thinking.

I would welcome some others incites into this. (pardon any typing or grammar problems I am in a heated mood and typing fast)

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Cut

Sprout — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 04:39:28 GMT

I'm sure this has been brought up before.......
But I'm wondering about the ladies experiences with cut vs. un-cut men.
I have been with only cut men.
One would think with my numbers, I'd run into one or two, but NO.

So, experiences? Preferences?

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In love with infatuation

PapaRed — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 13:07:26 GMT

Another title that I misread started this train of thought for me; people often use "love" and "infatuation" as though they were a dichotomy (with love being a more mature, "better" alternative to infatuation). But I think they might just be really equivalent choices. There's a big thrill in infatuation that, for some people, might make up for the inevitable letdown; one could reasonably choose to pursue a series of infatuations rather than settle for the different satisfactions and pleasures of love.

Which choice would you make?

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Love for Infatuation

dsoul — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 15:31:47 GMT

How can you often tell the difference between when you're in love with someone compared to when you think you're in love but actually aren't for some reason or another?

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What "MEN" want....

Pineapple2 — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 21:21:17 GMT

Sex or Affection?

We all pretty much know the stereotype of "men wanting just one thing."

As a woman, which do you think men need more, sex or affection? I allow that sex can be seen as a sharing of affection, but I think you'll understand the question.

"Zipless" sex... or cuddles and caring... if men had to choose one over the other as a need, which do you think it would be? Why?

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the best advice...

Nadia — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 06:29:18 GMT

so what's the advice that you were given when you were a kid, that really made a difference in how you acted or how you viewed the world?

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Should she change back to her maiden name?

roisin0908 — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 03:55:53 GMT

My friend is going through a very messy divorce.

She is still totally in love with this a*hole and wants to do everything she can to keep the marriage going. She just want's him back - but he's outta there!!!

We warned her years ago that it was going to end in tears as we could see he was not going to hang around, didn't love her and had numerous affairs.....

However, she was in love with him and changed her name to his and since she is a member of a number of professional associations, they are all in her married name. Everything is, passport, Drivers licence, accounts etc.....

Now he's actually leaving her and getting a divorce. There's nothing she can do, they have no children (although he does), she earns more than him so she'll not get any alimony, she has all the assets, he's happy to walk away with nothing.

However, she does not want to change her name back to her maiden name. Despite all her friends suggesting it will be a good thing to do so that she can have a clean break.....

But No!! She feels by keeping his name, she will always be a part of him.......

Hopefully in a few months she'll see the light, but geez, talk about putting yourself through toture!!!

Any advice on how we should handle her over the next few months??

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Fetish question for the other women here ..

lowpockets — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 07:58:31 GMT

I met a lez woman in SecondLife who claims she has a fetish for nylons/hosiery ...

Personally, I'm not excited about such items myself, and I'm thinkin this person is prolly an alt ..

Still .. it prompts the question I'm asking here ...

Do any of you have a fetish for hosiery ??? somehow, I don't think so, but figure I'd ask the rest of us here and
find out ...

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Do you fantasize about someone else during sex?

Peter — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 15:35:20 GMT

Do many women fantasize about another man or another woman while having sex w/ a regular sex partner? It seems to heighten my experience.

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Interested....

Pineapple2 — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 21:31:30 GMT

What queues does your lover give you when they are intending a sex encounter with you? Are they seductive or do they just sort of "jump your bones"?

Verbal?
Body language - eye contact?
Other?

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masturbation

Chucker — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 05:14:37 GMT

How do you masturbate? What do you think about when you do? When did you start?

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If you could talk to you when you were 13

PapaRed — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 18:57:02 GMT

What would you want you to know about sex?

The reason I ask is because I am now teaching the Our Whole Lives curriculum to a group of 13-14 year old boys and girls. This is a curriculum developed by the Unitarian Universalist church for a whole range of ages, and it is unusual in treating all aspects of sexuality and addressing GLBT issues as well as straight. So here I am, a 58 year old guy who spends his working life with computers, trying to work with people at an age I can barely remember. We do a couple of readings at the beginning of each session, from some '90s book quoting young people on sexual issues, and I thought it might be neat to do some readings that come from the folks on this forum, as you are all pretty hip and tolerant and very straightforward. So if you feel okay about it, post here, or send me a pm if you prefer, and I'll see how it goes over!

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non-religious funerals

alVacado — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 03:53:49 GMT

lets expound on the God-thing, in how funerals are frequently presented as a sermon by some minister (most times, unfortunately someone who didn't even know the deceased) and forced (if you are not religious yourself) prayer.

i've had the unfortunate issue of arranging a few. for my dad, i let them steer us to the typical service offerings and i called upon the minister of my childhood church because i knew that my dad knew him and liked him (dad was not so religious himself, it was my mom, the daughter of a Southern Baptist minister that dragged us to church twice a week. dad frequently excused himself to stay home and relax).

for my fiance, we (his family and i) knew he wanted to be cremated, but we again let them recommend a "non-denominational" minister, But still, it was like a sermon,but even tho his part was a minimal part of the ceremony (and he read things that people wrote), i felt annoyed knowing that Kenny would not have liked sitting through the prayers and the preachy part.

for my brother, we told the recommended minister that we did not want it to be a sermon, my brother's ex girlfriend specifically said no prayer and still...there it was. a roomful of tattooed hardcore mostly atheist guys, being told to bow their heads in prayer.

for the record, i think of myself as agnostic, with my own version of God which is a mix of the Gary Larson cartoon (visual:the old man with white flowing hair and beard in a big robe and his finger hovering over the smite button on his computer key board and the screen showing a man walking under a safe being lowered by a rope) and an great mass of all encompassing energy complete with swirling sparkling space particles (after all, everything IS energy =ubiquitous to life=everliving)....ok....yeah....i'm a special kind of nut but My God loves me!

anyway...I get it that funerals are for the masses, and truth be told, i'm sure that my mom and family and a lot of Kenny's family were comforted by this type of ceremony, so I'm ok with it although, it's not what i envisioned.

also, i've gone to catholic funerals and though i consider myself religion-tolerant (after all, i've got to humor my mom and her family about these matters to keep MY peace of mind), these i find borderline disturbing. i'm sorry but the chanting of the rosary thing weirds me out and does the exact opposite of comforting me. btw, probably the REASON that my dad was absolved of going to church was cause he was raised catholic and there were some disdainful glares my way from the more catholic side of the family regarding the service being presided over by a baptist minister.

so part of this pigeon holing is probably due to the fact that this type of thing is thrust upon you when you're already in a state of shock/and or grief (even when you know it's eminent). so you're at the mercy of the sellers of such service and the Usual stuff.

i'm sayin', in the next decade, i might take it upon myself to make my own arrangements for the actual service as well as the costs of my own passing.

any thoughts?

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Movie lines

strngvoice — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 01:39:39 GMT

are there any movie lines that you use or have modified and now use on a regular or semi regular basis?

what is, in your opinion, the best movie line ever?

what is, in your opinion, the worst movie line you've ever heard?

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Making Connections

sa — Mon, 23 Feb 2009 15:59:34 GMT

My lovely wife and I want to spice up our love life a bit, but aren't sure where to start. Maybe just by connecting with another couple online or trading pics or something? We'd also be into attending sexy parties.
Problem is, most of our friends are conservative and we don't know anyone who swings or is on any special guest lists.
Any advice on websites or other ways to connect? Any good parties coming up?

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Encouraging Her to Make the First Move

cybersport — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 13:42:32 GMT

Hi Folks,

It's been ages since I've been on this site... still trying to work around my shyness when it comes to dating situations and spcifically asking women for dates.

It would be easier if more women made the first move. Any suggestions on a good way to encourage her to do that?

I'm 51 and a lifelong single guy, located near Philadelphia.

Thank you ladies...

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Go Girl

strngvoice — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 02:06:36 GMT

sometimes I see or hear things that make me cringe for what they say or represent about women or girls. Sometimes I see or hear things that make me go "You Go Girl!"

I invite you to share some examples of things that give you those reactions.

the horror
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8mVEGfH4s5g

Seriously...I'm stunned by the wretchedness of that song.

The Go Girl!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d1gyGULh6_A

I don't even care if that is real or set up. It just makes me happy. Of course I was mugged when I was younger so maybe that's why.

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Who Pays the Bill?

dsoul — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 19:30:53 GMT

There's this scenario I often get myself into: I'm taking a pretty lady out for dinner, or perhaps lunch. After we've done eating and it's time for me to whip out my wallet and settle to bill, she holds my hand and tells me not to bother, that she'll take care of it.

I get confused, it thought it was only customary for the guy to be the one who pays the bill, and not the lady. Should I feel guilty about this?

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For all the Liberal Ladies

JSin — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 19:56:46 GMT

To celebrate the final farewell of the Shrub who is our current fearless leader a blogger has come up will a great concept
http://www.imperfectparent.com/mominatrix/shave-the-date/699_1/

******Shave the Date: No Bush Left Behind*********

"So to commemorate our new found freedom from the last eight years, the Mominatrix is encouraging you to unite together and “Shave the Date” -- Inauguration Day, January 20, 2009, when we will leave no bush behind.

We, the people with pubic hair, should come together and celebrate this historic election. Show your love for your country, and as you watch our new president take his oath and feel your satin undies against your smooth nether region, you can take pride in knowing you've rid your world of bush once and for all."

An amusing way to mark the occasion

JSin

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Hot sex tips

edo — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 05:42:23 GMT

Hi!
Recently I posted a tidbit on this other tribe...any responses? This was a way to start opening the door possibly, for people to see different options with sex.
So much is truly possible.

1. Come out of judgment of yourself and your lover / lovers.
2. Get rid of all reference points of what great sex is or is not.
3. Stop having orgasm as a target.
4. Laugh hysterically!
5. Be present - if you can't, don't play.

http://hotsex.tribe.net/thread/9e02692f-b674-4787-a8c0-29832ea80da3

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god bless america

strngvoice — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 17:27:37 GMT

does this phrase confound and irritate anyone else as much as it does me?

I just don't get it. I mean sure I don't believe in a god so that might be part of it...but if I did believe in a god/dess who created all of us and everything playing favorites with our country or even our race or planet. I created two sons...and I can't imagine blessing one over the other.

I'm not sure if it's more confounding when it's use jumps during times of "war" or when it's used in such inane things as football games. I always have this picture in my head of interviews I've seen with football players and how they talk about how the win of the game was all due to god. Do they really think the other team is just less in favor with god? how does such a god work anyway?

I saw a bumper sticker the other day that said "God bless Everyone...no exceptions" I liked that! it makes sense to me.

So my question is does this phrase bother you? and do you have any thoughts that might help it make more sense to me?

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guilt... the unneccessary burden

tangerine23 — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 03:43:30 GMT

I find myself feeling guilt about a great many things that I shouldn't. I didn't recognize it for what it was until recently.
If I called into work sick because I needed an emotional break, I felt so bad I would stay home and do nothing as if I were sick.
If I missed class, I felt like a horrible student despite the fact that I'm on the Dean's list.
It goes on. Some of these things were not a big deal but came back once loved ones passed away.
Do you experience guilt you shouldn't? Is this more common in women in your experience?
How do you deal with it?

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Better looking women have higher standards in relationships?

aschleigh — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 04:39:09 GMT

Do you think that the better looking a women ( not just prettier or healthier but as she sees herself , if she sees herself as beautiful and healthy and more attractive) the higher her standards are likely to be in a relationship or life in general?
I know there are all sorts of factors, cultural and what not. But in general , the better a women looks , do you think she has more options and develops a higher bar for herself and her suitors? ( the key may be as she sees herself, how others see her may not be as important) Some women I think are beautiful have low self worth and some women who are " average" seem to have that glow)

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Artifical Lubricants

Pineapple2 — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 21:40:47 GMT

Am I the only one who hates the taste of artificial lubricants?

And, do you think that taking more time to really prep a woman makes them not so necessary?

I used to love fresh whipped cream (no sugar) not so much for the taste, but milk fat seems to keep slick for much longer than any "personal lube" I have tried.

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Love Bipolar.

strngvoice — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 01:36:54 GMT

I heard this term in a song not long ago and it totally struck a cord with me. I'm definitely not suffering from love bipolar now but I have had a case or two in the past.

So I wondered have you ever had love bipolar? on again off again, I love you, I hate you...or at least I hate loving you. What do you think causes that reaction? I'm a sane women who enjoys common sense, my self esteem is good to great depending on the curve and I generally have high standards of how men have to treat me before I even consider falling for them...so WTF? I think it's some bizarre chemical reaction or something. What do you think? how did you get sucked into the cycle of intense up and down?

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Woo Hoos all around!

strngvoice — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 19:27:07 GMT

Quel's cool thread inspired me to ask what are your Woo Hoos right now?

a few of mine are

Joy just flows over me when I see our beautiful christmas tree. It looks truly magic to me.

I get to be friends with RT, I am certainly blessed to be friends with all of my friends. But right now in this second I am feeling especially grateful for RT.

It's beautiful here today. Cold but crisp and full of beautiful sunshine and trees with just a few colorful leaves left on them.

A Big Woo Hoo for last night...and that's all I'm gonna say about that(o:

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Woo hoo!

tangerine23 — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 04:13:01 GMT

I've been feeling bummed about money and school stress this week but I just got some great news!
1) It looks like I may have landed a new client (sorely needed).
2) I got 98% in my physical anthropology course! Ha! ... and my sister said to me: "Don't feel bad if you're not very good at science."

Just wanted to share the happiness!

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Relationship?

tangerine23 — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 23:04:52 GMT

I have been single for about 4 years now with no committed relationships. I am in a place where that is what I ultimately want, though not in the orthodox fashion.

I am dating someone who also wants a relationship and though it's too early to tell if we're right for each other, it occurred to me that I have no idea how to be in a relationship anymore! I certainly don't want to be up anyone's ass or vice versa. I suppose I would have to start penciling love into my schedule as well. I'm nervous about him coming over for dinner tonight and I think it's because I'm not even used to spending time with someone who wants something other than an amorphous anomaly with me. That was fine with me, but what do I do with something that hints at potential?

Advice?

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something whacky

strngvoice — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 20:57:32 GMT

what is something whacky that you have thought of doing but that you have never done?

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in Laws

strngvoice — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 00:01:50 GMT

I just saw this article that says that for women having their mother in law live with them and their families makes them 3 times more likely to have a heart attack...and it got me wondering.

How has your experience with having in laws or the families of your SOs?

Is it usually fine? usually terrible? sometimes a complete nightmare? sometimes a great joy?

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Why?? Who would buy this?

JSin — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 05:29:30 GMT

Can anyone tell me who would buy this. I honestly believe this is the dumbest piece of clothing I have ever in my life seen and if a woman I was getting ready to play with had one on I believe I would end up laughing so hard I would be unable to continue.
http://www.hoodthong.com/

JSin

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most wonderful day of the year...

strngvoice — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 18:23:04 GMT

what is your most favorite day or holiday of the year?

what is your least favorite day or holiday of the year?